The DJ Collective Official Interview: Short In November 2021 I was the closing keynote speaker at the DJ Collective in Scottsdale, Arizona. Prior to taking the stage, I was interviewed by DJ and Host Sean Patrick to discuss lifestyle design and the way in which I manage my business and my life.
The DJ Collective Official Interview: Short
In November 2021 I was the closing keynote speaker at the DJ Collective in Scottsdale, Arizona. Prior to taking the stage, I was interviewed by DJ and Host Sean Patrick to discuss lifestyle design and the way in which I manage my business and my life.
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welcome back djc it's so funny every
time we start these we're having this
great time and i feel like we're just
welcoming in the people to the
conversation to the family and this one
is going to be a great one i'm here with
andrea now you're going to be on our
main stage in tomorrow you're talking
about redefine and design
tell me a little bit about what that
means and what you're going to be
hitting on so one of the things that i
think is very common in our industry
entrepreneurs small business owners and
creatives in general we are drawn to
starting our own businesses because we
want to have agency and ownership over
our businesses our time our schedule and
we spend all of this effort
building a business and then at the end
we kind of live off what's left over our
our families get
the rest of us and not the best of us we
don't take great decisions
we don't always get but we don't have
time for ourselves we don't have time to
do the things that we love to do and if
you are
wildly creative if you are really
successful if you are
doing the thing that you love and you're
a workaholic in your type a like all of
these people are
you start to see that your business
really encroaches on your life
and when i got to that point i just said
i
i didn't want this i want to make a good
like i i love money and i need it and i
want to make a really good living but it
was so much more important to me that i
had a bigger life and so we switched it
and i sat down and i said let me design
the life that i want
how much time do i want to be able to
spend with my kids what's important in
terms of the relationship i have with my
husband and with my friends with myself
what do i want my days to look like and
feel like and i designed that and then i
built a business and retrofit the
business to support the life
and it's an ongoing evolution it's a
project that you know you're constantly
checking in and saying like how you're
doing but it's it's a really worthwhile
exercise to be able
to have this yeah okay so this is
something that i love this idea it's
fascinating to me and i wish i was
better at it so i'm just gonna pick your
brain a little sure okay so i think
what's great about those of us in the
event space is we don't have a typical
nine to five
most people i go to work monday through
friday nine to five and i have to
basically build my life around my work
that's not us we can choose to take jobs
we can choose to not take jobs and we
actually have the opportunity to design
it the way you're talking about it can
you give me a little insight on what
some of those pieces are in your design
is it things like i'm definitely going
on vacation in july is it i want to have
this type of date night
with my husband this many times a year
is it soccer with my kit what are like
the main pieces that are non-negotiables
maybe for you that you put in your
calendar and then work the rest around
so for me what i did was i i think there
are so many things that we all have to
do
i start with anchoring my days
and so generally speaking monday through
friday my kids have to be taken to
school between 7 30 and 7 45. where are
you based out of las vegas
so that's the drop-off that doesn't
change
they have to get picked up at around 3
30. right so that doesn't change so i
time block my life and it sounds crazy
and it sounds overly structured but it
really gives me the freedom in the
platform to do all the things that i
want to do so from 7 45
to 3 30
that those parameters those parentheses
that gives me my window that's where i
build my business yeah and so i can do
whatever it is in those hours that i
want to do so maybe that's taping a
youtube or filming a podcast it could be
you know creating and sketching or
drawing it could be emails it could be
admin but i block that time out this way
i know i have really deep focused work
for a set period of time right
being a good parent is something that
means something different to everybody
and family life
the the value that you place on that is
different for everybody for me it's
dinner
like family dinner happens in my house
five nights a week and that means that i
cook and i try to engage my kids in that
if i can my daughter likes to chop right
now
my son likes to hang out and you know
and like snack while i do it
but that 45 minutes of cooking
30 minutes of eating
and then like 30 minutes of cleanup
that's two and a half hours yeah
the average family spends less than 30
minutes a day together
and so if i
could triple that or quadruple that and
not be like looking at my phone and
checking emails and doing something else
even if they are watching tv even if you
know we're watching cobra kai and we're
talking and we're laughing
it's family time that is built in yeah
and then when they go to bed
i i can do other things so i have i
brain dump everything that i need to do
yeah and i write it down and then i
think to myself like if this doesn't get
done am i really gonna care is it gonna
is it gonna be impactful in terms of
making me happy making me money and if
the answer is no then i take it off and
then i just block out all the things
that i need to do right or that i want
to do and i leave some flexibility to
move them around but as long as
and i think it's the same for people who
are number ones number twos wherever
they are
if your home life is chaotic
it really does bleed into your work
and so making sure that i have stability
and comfort and really deep connections
with my family
gives me the foundation to do the kind
of work that i want to do because in my
head i know i've taken care of that
right and so that gives me freedom and
latitude to move in other places i love
that so much i can talk about here first
the cooking with your kids is amazing i
have kids as well i have a kid and i'm
married and uh cooking can be a chore if
it's i'm the one who cooks and they're
doing something else and then we eat and
maybe it's in front of the tv maybe it's
like it's a chore but if you can
incorporate the people you love into
those things not only are you getting
that special time that you want but
you're actually still parenting and
teaching life skills like chopping or
snacking while other people work which
is another lifestyle that is my son's
vibe right now yes but i mean it's often
my vibe i was raised in a very
traditional italian house
i did
my grandmother lived with us until she
died
my mother my grandmother owned the
kitchen that was their domain
i i moved out at 23
not knowing how to run a dishwasher
never having done a load of laundry
because when i said like oh i really
want to learn my grandmother was like
all like ah
take me god i have nothing to live for
you
if you don't need me so i i literally
got married and moved out of the house
and i didn't i flooded the first house
we lived in because i went to run the
dishwasher and i didn't know that you
couldn't use hand soap oh my goodness so
i was like bubbles everywhere flooded
the entire first floor
and i remember thinking like
i have zero like life skills
in terms of how to be like without my
grandmother i'm not quite sure how to
live through the day because i've never
done anything myself and i don't want a
handicap
i think that my my family did it from
such a place of love but i don't want to
handicap my kids i would like them to
have a sense of
of understanding and and basic chopping
yes so yeah just the basics yeah you
know it's funny i heard it from guy
fieri who's you know food network fame
all that kind of stuff he's like my
biggest ass for parents is get your kids
cooking because it's fun it's important
it's a life skill all that kind of stuff
so i think it's cool that it's the
double whammy of special family time and
life skills also i know what it's like
to um i may have put dish soap in the
dishwasher as well so i know what it's
saying
to live in life with no skills trying to
sop that up for days trying to explain
to someone like truly i'm not
really an idiot i just didn't know
right
and it doesn't say not for use in
dishwasher it says dish soap yeah i was
like those are dishes this is soap and
this is going to wash it it's going to
right
why are they making soap like this can
somebody tell us yeah why are you still
doing that so confusing
we can handle that at another time we'll
tackle the soap issue yeah okay so um
you kind of you lay it out day by day
you're telling me weekly i do it day by
day but i do it for the week okay do you
ever go further than that do you ever
look at your whole month or your whole
year or it's it's the system you use
that works is a whole day whole week and
that's kind of where it is it is
primarily
weekly on a general scale but the
reality is is that when i'm in season
for my business or when i have a month
like this where
i've been on the road from november 1st
and i am on the road until the 19th
for something like that we do sit down
and we do the entire month and we do the
calendar yeah so my husband and i have a
how you doing check-in
like once a week just a 15-minute
state of the union how are we how are
the kids how are the house what's coming
up and then once a month we'll sit down
and say like what's coming in the next
six to eight weeks that's really big
that we have to plan for because he owns
a hospitality consulting business as
well which we actually own the business
together and so we're always
moving around each other and trying to
accommodate
the the business needs and the human
needs of four very different human
beings that all happen to live
in the same place
and whose success is wholly dependent on
the success of the other three people
yeah if i'm a squirrel and i can't get
anything done then my kids get to school
late if they're in school late then
their grades suffer if they're great
stuff or my husband gets mad like domino
effect it is it's a really big cycle and
i think that there has been
previously this push that like this is
your work
and this is your life
when i think what a lot has
has come up to the surface and what
really a lot of i think we learned
during covid is
who you are as a business and who you
are as a person are the same and if how
you do
anything is how you do everything
then
you have to apply the same principles to
your to your life and your business oh
my goodness i'm so excited to hear you i
can't wait i'm super excited just from
talking to you i feel those uh nervous
excited vibrations me too no pressure
thanks for having me but i'm going to be
just staring at you the whole time let's
not make it weird i can't do anything
other than that
tell everybody at home where can they
find you on the socials i am everywhere
at andrea eppelito awesome thank you
thank you thank you thank you guys for
watching we'll be back with more
interviews soon
[Music]welcome back djc it's so funny every
time we start these we're having this
great time and i feel like we're just
welcoming in the people to the
conversation to the family and this one
is going to be a great one i'm here with
andrea now you're going to be on our
main stage in tomorrow you're talking
about redefine and design
tell me a little bit about what that
means and what you're going to be
hitting on so one of the things that i
think is very common in our industry
entrepreneurs small business owners and
creatives in general we are drawn to
starting our own businesses because we
want to have agency and ownership over
our businesses our time our schedule and
we spend all of this effort
building a business and then at the end
we kind of live off what's left over our
our families get
the rest of us and not the best of us we
don't take great decisions
we don't always get but we don't have
time for ourselves we don't have time to
do the things that we love to do and if
you are
wildly creative if you are really
successful if you are
doing the thing that you love and you're
a workaholic in your type a like all of
these people are
you start to see that your business
really encroaches on your life
and when i got to that point i just said
i
i didn't want this i want to make a good
like i i love money and i need it and i
want to make a really good living but it
was so much more important to me that i
had a bigger life and so we switched it
and i sat down and i said let me design
the life that i want
how much time do i want to be able to
spend with my kids what's important in
terms of the relationship i have with my
husband and with my friends with myself
what do i want my days to look like and
feel like and i designed that and then i
built a business and retrofit the
business to support the life
and it's an ongoing evolution it's a
project that you know you're constantly
checking in and saying like how you're
doing but it's it's a really worthwhile
exercise to be able
to have this yeah okay so this is
something that i love this idea it's
fascinating to me and i wish i was
better at it so i'm just gonna pick your
brain a little sure okay so i think
what's great about those of us in the
event space is we don't have a typical
nine to five
most people i go to work monday through
friday nine to five and i have to
basically build my life around my work
that's not us we can choose to take jobs
we can choose to not take jobs and we
actually have the opportunity to design
it the way you're talking about it can
you give me a little insight on what
some of those pieces are in your design
is it things like i'm definitely going
on vacation in july is it i want to have
this type of date night
with my husband this many times a year
is it soccer with my kit what are like
the main pieces that are non-negotiables
maybe for you that you put in your
calendar and then work the rest around
so for me what i did was i i think there
are so many things that we all have to
do
i start with anchoring my days
and so generally speaking monday through
friday my kids have to be taken to
school between 7 30 and 7 45. where are
you based out of las vegas
so that's the drop-off that doesn't
change
they have to get picked up at around 3
30. right so that doesn't change so i
time block my life and it sounds crazy
and it sounds overly structured but it
really gives me the freedom in the
platform to do all the things that i
want to do so from 7 45
to 3 30
that those parameters those parentheses
that gives me my window that's where i
build my business yeah and so i can do
whatever it is in those hours that i
want to do so maybe that's taping a
youtube or filming a podcast it could be
you know creating and sketching or
drawing it could be emails it could be
admin but i block that time out this way
i know i have really deep focused work
for a set period of time right
being a good parent is something that
means something different to everybody
and family life
the the value that you place on that is
different for everybody for me it's
dinner
like family dinner happens in my house
five nights a week and that means that i
cook and i try to engage my kids in that
if i can my daughter likes to chop right
now
my son likes to hang out and you know
and like snack while i do it
but that 45 minutes of cooking
30 minutes of eating
and then like 30 minutes of cleanup
that's two and a half hours yeah
the average family spends less than 30
minutes a day together
and so if i
could triple that or quadruple that and
not be like looking at my phone and
checking emails and doing something else
even if they are watching tv even if you
know we're watching cobra kai and we're
talking and we're laughing
it's family time that is built in yeah
and then when they go to bed
i i can do other things so i have i
brain dump everything that i need to do
yeah and i write it down and then i
think to myself like if this doesn't get
done am i really gonna care is it gonna
is it gonna be impactful in terms of
making me happy making me money and if
the answer is no then i take it off and
then i just block out all the things
that i need to do right or that i want
to do and i leave some flexibility to
move them around but as long as
and i think it's the same for people who
are number ones number twos wherever
they are
if your home life is chaotic
it really does bleed into your work
and so making sure that i have stability
and comfort and really deep connections
with my family
gives me the foundation to do the kind
of work that i want to do because in my
head i know i've taken care of that
right and so that gives me freedom and
latitude to move in other places i love
that so much i can talk about here first
the cooking with your kids is amazing i
have kids as well i have a kid and i'm
married and uh cooking can be a chore if
it's i'm the one who cooks and they're
doing something else and then we eat and
maybe it's in front of the tv maybe it's
like it's a chore but if you can
incorporate the people you love into
those things not only are you getting
that special time that you want but
you're actually still parenting and
teaching life skills like chopping or
snacking while other people work which
is another lifestyle that is my son's
vibe right now yes but i mean it's often
my vibe i was raised in a very
traditional italian house
i did
my grandmother lived with us until she
died
my mother my grandmother owned the
kitchen that was their domain
i i moved out at 23
not knowing how to run a dishwasher
never having done a load of laundry
because when i said like oh i really
want to learn my grandmother was like
all like ah
take me god i have nothing to live for
you
if you don't need me so i i literally
got married and moved out of the house
and i didn't i flooded the first house
we lived in because i went to run the
dishwasher and i didn't know that you
couldn't use hand soap oh my goodness so
i was like bubbles everywhere flooded
the entire first floor
and i remember thinking like
i have zero like life skills
in terms of how to be like without my
grandmother i'm not quite sure how to
live through the day because i've never
done anything myself and i don't want a
handicap
i think that my my family did it from
such a place of love but i don't want to
handicap my kids i would like them to
have a sense of
of understanding and and basic chopping
yes so yeah just the basics yeah you
know it's funny i heard it from guy
fieri who's you know food network fame
all that kind of stuff he's like my
biggest ass for parents is get your kids
cooking because it's fun it's important
it's a life skill all that kind of stuff
so i think it's cool that it's the
double whammy of special family time and
life skills also i know what it's like
to um i may have put dish soap in the
dishwasher as well so i know what it's
saying
to live in life with no skills trying to
sop that up for days trying to explain
to someone like truly i'm not
really an idiot i just didn't know
right
and it doesn't say not for use in
dishwasher it says dish soap yeah i was
like those are dishes this is soap and
this is going to wash it it's going to
right
why are they making soap like this can
somebody tell us yeah why are you still
doing that so confusing
we can handle that at another time we'll
tackle the soap issue yeah okay so um
you kind of you lay it out day by day
you're telling me weekly i do it day by
day but i do it for the week okay do you
ever go further than that do you ever
look at your whole month or your whole
year or it's it's the system you use
that works is a whole day whole week and
that's kind of where it is it is
primarily
weekly on a general scale but the
reality is is that when i'm in season
for my business or when i have a month
like this where
i've been on the road from november 1st
and i am on the road until the 19th
for something like that we do sit down
and we do the entire month and we do the
calendar yeah so my husband and i have a
how you doing check-in
like once a week just a 15-minute
state of the union how are we how are
the kids how are the house what's coming
up and then once a month we'll sit down
and say like what's coming in the next
six to eight weeks that's really big
that we have to plan for because he owns
a hospitality consulting business as
well which we actually own the business
together and so we're always
moving around each other and trying to
accommodate
the the business needs and the human
needs of four very different human
beings that all happen to live
in the same place
and whose success is wholly dependent on
the success of the other three people
yeah if i'm a squirrel and i can't get
anything done then my kids get to school
late if they're in school late then
their grades suffer if they're great
stuff or my husband gets mad like domino
effect it is it's a really big cycle and
i think that there has been
previously this push that like this is
your work
and this is your life
when i think what a lot has
has come up to the surface and what
really a lot of i think we learned
during covid is
who you are as a business and who you
are as a person are the same and if how
you do
anything is how you do everything
then
you have to apply the same principles to
your to your life and your business oh
my goodness i'm so excited to hear you i
can't wait i'm super excited just from
talking to you i feel those uh nervous
excited vibrations me too no pressure
thanks for having me but i'm going to be
just staring at you the whole time let's
not make it weird i can't do anything
other than that
tell everybody at home where can they
find you on the socials i am everywhere
at andrea eppelito awesome thank you
thank you thank you thank you guys for
watching we'll be back with more
interviews soon
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